An orgasm can be quite a shock to the system, particularly if you didn't know your body was capable of having one. At first, orgasms can be surprising, accidental, or even scary (or a combination of those feelings). In most cases, though, orgasms are fun and leave people wanting more.
Plus, everyone has orgasms at a different point in life. Some people had an unforgettable run-in with a hot tub jet as a kid, while others had a teenage curiosity that involved stumbling upon internet porn. Many learn to orgasm through masturbation, and some go their whole sex life without orgasming at all.
Given that there's such a smattering of orgasm experiences (and the fact that there's no "right" way to figure it out), we found some real first orgasm stories from people in the R29 community and some honest Redditors. Together, these anecdotes make for quite the coming of age story, if you know what we mean.
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“My first boyfriend was diddling my skittle and I was loving it.”
"I was 20. My first boyfriend was diddling my skittle and I was loving it and then all of a sudden it hit. It was quite powerful. I remember being quite loud and he started to pull away, concerned, but I got a death grip on his hand and growled "DON'T YOU STOP, DAMMIT!" He told me he thought I was possessed." — mweebles via Reddit.
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“My whole body was feeling all kind of tingles.”
"I remember freshman year of high school I finally decided to keep going all the way when I masturbated and it was the best feeling in the world. My whole body was feeling all kind of tingles, and the next day people were telling me I had some kind glow. Little did they know." - jxka007 via Reddit
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“It feels so WARM.”
"It wasn't the first time I'd let a guy go down on me, but it was the first time I didn't freak out about it. I remember it going something like this in my head: Oh, geez. Um, is he going down? Yep, he's definitely down there. Breathe, girl. Okay, that's not so bad. Maybe another minute. Wow, it's getting better. It feels so WARM. Oh lord, that feels so good... OH, HOLY FUCKING SHIT!" - teenMom86 via Reddit
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“I was convinced that I had to go pee.”
"Several times in the first few weeks when my first girlfriend and I were having sex, I felt a kind of tingling in my nether regions and was convinced that I had to go pee. I would stop her mid sexy-times and rush off to the bathroom. Finally, she stopped me one day and said that I probably didn't actually have to go to the bathroom but was actually close to having an orgasm. She was right."
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“seriously scared the hell out of me.”
"The crazy thing is that I thought I had been having orgasms for years. Sex always felt good. A friend told me it was weird I never 'flew solo.' One day, my boyfriend was out of town and out of boredom I gave it a shot (well a rub). It seriously scared the hell out of me. I remember suddenly sitting up completely freaked out. After that I became very specific in the bedroom and a firm believer that you need to figure yourself out before you can expect someone else to." - ps-iloveyou via Reddit
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“stronger wave of pleasure.”
"I tried to squeeze my vagina closed while my boyfriend fucked me. After a short time, I realized I was getting this ever stronger wave of pleasure which eventually hit a peak. I was 20 years old." - Anonymous via Reddit
7 OF 9
“cleaning my lower regions in the shower.”
"Was cleaning my lower regions in the shower, got this nice tickling going on. Continued it. Continued to orgasm standing in the shower for the next months." - Anonymous via Reddit
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“I remember the jets feeling good on my genitals.”
"I was eight years old (ish) in a jacuzzi bathtub. I remember the jets feeling good on my genitals, so I would keep it pressed against the side of the tub. The image in my mind was of a thermometer filling up, and when it hit the top I got a good feeling, which I now realize was an orgasm. I took lots of baths back then."
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“I got a vibrator and went to work.”
"I always felt dirty when I touched myself, and so one day I said screw it, and started to diddle myself. I tried and felt something, I just thought, 'This is what it feels like, damn this sucks.' Couple months later, I got a vibrator and went to work. Then my opinion changed on orgasms." - Bkbee via Reddit
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