Sexting, online pornography, staying safe online, transgender issues - should these topics be included in the latest Sex and Relationships Education (SRE) curriculum guidelines for English schools?
Sexting may be very common, but that doesn't mean it comes naturally to people. But don't worry - we're here to be your gay sexting fairy godfather! We've got a complete guide guaranteed to help anyone from beginners to seasoned pros take their gay sexting game to the next level.
We'll walk you through how to make yourself more comfortable, write the perfect sex text, and use sex texting as a form of foreplay.
What is Gay Sexting?
Sexting is universal - if you have a body and are sexually attracted to other people, you can sext! Sexting is also pervasive and accessible. If you have dexterity issues or are visually impaired, you can even read aloud using the voice!
There's very little difference between sexting and gay sexting, other than who's writing them and who's receiving them. We designated this as an article about gay sexting because we're going to give you targeted advice on how to text male bodies.
But honestly? You can use these tips and tricks to give anyone a little tweak.
Research shows that gay men (especially young gay men) sext at higher rates than many other populations. Many believe this is because gay men have higher self-confidence than other groups — after all, where would Grindr be without those sexy selfies?
Tip #1: Be Comfortable With Your Body
The best sexting comes from being comfortable with yourself, knowing what you like (and don't like), and feeling safe to express yourself openly with your partner. But you don't just wake up one morning and - voila - suddenly feel extra confident and confident.
It takes time and effort to get to a place where you love yourself, but all the emotional labor is worth it. We want to assure you that you don't need a perfect body to be worthy of love or enjoyment.
As long as you like the way you look and show it off with confidence, other people will too. We are a thousand times more demanding of ourselves than anyone can imagine! Once you learn to love yourself, it becomes easier to get others to love you back (physically and emotionally).
Unfortunately, there is no easy or quick way to make yourself comfortable. Start with small steps, like making a conscious effort not to compare yourself to others. Mindfulness meditation can help too, as can therapy if your problems persist or come from a deeper source.
You should love yourself and see what other people think of you, which will make your sex life hotter. Tip #2: Start Slow
Ok, let's start by setting the scene. You're home alone and you turn on your phone. You lie in bed with your trash in hand, take a photo and send it to your man with a detailed description of what you plan to do to them when they get home.
Sounds hot, right? Absolutely, but it can also go wrong very quickly.
One, you have to ask permission before you can send even mild sexting. You never know where they are or who has their phone, so be sure to ask before you text (you don't want their boss or mom to see, right?).
Consent is just as important in a digital environment as it is in physical intimacy, so just a quick "Hey, are you somewhere you can text?" works well. It's also a good idea to ask your partner how they feel about sexting before you test the waters. Some people don't like it at all, and you don't want to go all out if it's just going to upset someone.
Take some time to talk honestly about their preferences, boundaries, and what is acceptable to them. Share yours too! Then make sure to take all of these into account when crafting the perfect dirty text (or find other ways to connect if they're "hard passes").
Plus, while it's a bit hot and heavy, fully engaged sex can occasionally be fun, and sex is often more fun when you start with some foreplay. Start slowly, with some teasing and seduction, building anticipation and eventually making everything hotter.
Try starting vague and getting more specific as you get deeper into it. Make them beg for it.
Tip #3: You don't have to use "dirty" words
For some, word choice is their biggest stumbling block when it comes to gay texting. Of course, the words we use to describe things vary from person to person, but some people are not used to using some "dirty" words.
But don't worry -- you don't need to use those words to sext! While it's good to step out of your comfort zone once in a while, you'll have more fun sex time if you're comfortable with what you're saying.
Depending on the vibe you want, sexting can be more effective if you describe what you're about to do more romantically - "I can't wait to put my arms around you and kiss your neck" can be infinitely sexy in some situations.
That's not to say that dirty, vulgar words don't have a time and place. Once you start, feel free to enter any words you like (as long as they don't cross any of your partner's boundaries).
Plus, once you've practiced sexting your partner, you can expand and use some more dramatic sexual vocabulary! But remember, being comfortable with who you are is the sexiest thing.
Tip #4: Stick to what you know and love
Our Guide to Gay Sexting: For Beginners and Seasoned Pros
Like using words you like, gay texting is hotter (and easier) if you stick to scenes you know you like. Remember, especially if you're having sex with someone who's been intimate in real life (or plans to be intimate in the future), you don't want to make commitments via text that you wouldn't want to make in person.
Plus, it's much easier to describe sexual acts and feelings you've experienced in real life. What does it feel like when a penis slides in and out of your mouth? Which jobs do you think are the hottest? Tell your partner in detail what you like about it and how it feels, especially if you touch yourself while sexting them.
Sharing what you like can also help you form a deeper connection with your partner. It can be hard to talk openly about what you like or want your partner to do to you personally, and this slight detachment can make things a little easier. After all, you can't get what you don't ask for!
Tip #5: Ask your partner what they like
Like physical sexual encounters, good sexting can't be about just one person. Imagine if you had sex with someone who didn't care what felt good or worked for you and only cared about what turned them on and turned them off. That wouldn't be very satisfying, would it?
The same goes for good gay sexting. You can't just bombard them with a bunch of sexting and pics about what you want to do without thinking about their needs (well, you can, but you most likely won't be in a relationship or situation with them for a long time) long).
That's part of why it's critical to start any sexting relationship by having a long, open conversation with your partner about their boundaries and what they are and don't like. Again, consent is key!
Motivating your partner by describing what you like is hot, but motivating them by considering their specific quirks, fetishes, and sexual preferences is even hotter. When in doubt, ask! Hit them with "Do you like it?" even if you're not sure. Or "tell me what you want to do to me/what I do to you" can give you a little insight and spark some creativity. Tip #6: Inflate their egos
Listen - who doesn't like to hear they're hot? Whether you believe it or not, having someone tell you that your body is sexy is a major thrill.
Focus on the parts of your partner's body that catch your attention the most. Tell your partner what you like about their body, and don't be afraid to be straightforward (if you like it).
Also, put their name in there every once in a while, especially when you're getting ready to blow. There's nothing quite like having someone say your name during orgasm - it's deeply personal and powerful.
You can even send them a short video of you at that moment (with their permission, of course).
Tip #7: Don't be afraid to use emojis
Ah, the eggplant emoji. Is there a sexier emoji out there? We don't think so! While your sexting should be mostly descriptive words, adding an emoji now and then can add a little extra flavor to your encounter.
Check out the options and see if you can find any new options to help you out or stick to old standards like raindrops and peaches.
Tip #8: Turn on the power!
Of course, a lot of gay texting is about creative fiction. But it's easier to be creative and sexual if you open yourself up! Set the scene for yourself as you would when having a partner over - put on your sexiest sheets, grab a drink, turn on your favorite music, and chat with your favorite sex helper.
If you're in a good mood, it will inspire you to find the words you need to get your partner excited.
a few examples
We know that if you're new to sexting, it can be very awkward to start sexting. We don't want to leave you idle, so we've prepared some examples for you (with your partner's permission, of course).
We'll break them down into categories so you can pick and choose which ones work best for you - combining them can help you get in on the action, then your creativity will kick in and you'll know where to go from there where.
Free Six Points SMS
Omg, you are so hot.
you are so handsome.
I can't stop thinking about you.
Your eyes (or any other body part you like) are so perfect.
It's hard for me to miss you.
I'm so lucky to call you mine (touch you, blah blah)
tell him what you're doing sexting
You make me so horny right now.
I'm touching myself right now.
I just got out of the shower and I'm all wet. Want to see it?
I'm thinking about the way you kneel (in front of me, on your back, etc.)
I lay in bed, touching myself, thinking about how you felt for me.
Anticipatory SMS
As soon as you get here, I'll take all your clothes off.
I can't wait to put my hands (mouths) on you.
It's hard for me to think of what I'm going to do to you in the future (be specific!)
I'm going to drop you off at least twice tonight.
I will make you feel good later.
top-notch porn
Be a good boy and suck me.
Tell me what you want me to do to you.
beg me.
tell me what you are doing now.
Let me see how hard I make you.
background text message
I'm really bad and I need to be punished.
I feel like I need a lesson.
You come here, and I'll let you do whatever you want with me.
Tell me I'm a bad boy.
I am your naughty boy sex fantasy sex
Tell me what you've been thinking.
I have always wanted to tie you up and use you.
Tell me about your ultimate fantasy.
I want to make your dreams come true - tell me what you want.
Would you like to try out new positions (sex toys, sex acts, etc.)?
reflect on your past experiences
Thinking of how you looked last night still makes me so excited.
Remember you (insert memory here)? That's too hot.
You looked hot the last time you let me hit it from behind.
Tell me what was your favorite from last night.
What was your favorite part of the last time we were together?
How to Take a Beautiful Sexy Photo to Complement Your Sexting
Our Guide to Gay Sexting: For Beginners and Seasoned Pros
Sexts are sexts—they're hot, descriptive, and leave plenty of room for a lot of creativity. But if you want to step up your game, include a sexy photo!
But you can't just take an old photo and use it - it might be convenient to take a nude selfie in the bathroom mirror, but someone already does it (and is kind of lazy). But don't worry; we've got some tips and tricks to help you create the hottest, sexiest pics ever.
Tip #1: It's Not Just About Your Penis
We know the typical sexy pic is the ubiquitous "dick pic". It doesn't matter what your gender or sexual orientation is; you've probably gotten an unsolicited picture of someone's penis at some point in your life.
Even when asked for opinions, what to include in your photo isn't just a part of your anatomy. Sure, you can get there, but make it part of the teasing.
Try focusing on the body parts you really like! Take a photo of sexy V-shaped muscles or pecs, or include your penis in a tilted full-body shot. What is your favorite part of the body? Be creative!
Tip #2: You don't have to be naked
While men may not have the kind of sexy lingerie that women do (which, in our opinion, is a huge shame), there are still plenty of ways to get sexy photos without getting totally nude if that's your thing.
What is your man like? Incorporate it into your selfies! Put on suspenders or your partner's favorite sweatshirt.
You can even put on your favorite shirt and a pair of boxer briefs. There's nothing wrong with being a little subtle -- you can even do a sexy striptease with a series of hot photos.
Tip #3: Breakthrough Assistants
Our Guide to Gay Sexting: For Beginners and Seasoned Pros
If you're really getting rowdy and feeling yourself, why not keep the fun going by breaking out sexual assistants and including them in your shots? While it might not be easy to distort yourself into the position you need to get a good, creative photo, it's worth the effort.
You can even film a short video of yourself using the prostate massager. This is the perfect time to try mirroring more uniquely - make sure to clean it first!
Remember, before sending gay texts, make sure you trust them
We've all sexted or sent someone a hot photo on a whim only to end up breaking up or otherwise not being able to work it out. What happened to that photo? While the correct thing to do for them is to delete everything, this isn't always the case.
Make sure you trust the person you're sexting with (especially if you include any easily identifiable sexy photos). And, as a quick reminder, revenge porn (sharing pictures of your ex without their permission) is illegal in nearly every state.
How To Use Gay Sexting As Foreplay
While gay texting may be the main activity, it can also serve as a super hot form of foreplay. The difference is what you include in the text.
When you text to sext, you go through the entire sexual encounter from start to finish. You'll start slow, build up, and then burn off your load in a set of sextants.
When you're using sexting as a form of foreplay, you'll want a way to deal with it. Think about what you like when you get down and dirty with someone.
It's about technique, building arousal, and taking time to explore each other's bodies. Instead of just starting to attack each other, focus on talking about all the things you want to do to them.
This is the perfect time to focus on describing what you want to do with your mouth in as much detail as possible—and we mean details. Talk about what you like about their body and how you want to use your body to please them.
Tell him how excited you are and what you're doing for yourself to think about them. Some hot pics (badly - you don't want to spoil all the surprises) can also up the ante, especially if you include any sexual aids you'll be using when he gets there.
Then, when he gets there, you're all turned on and ready to go.
In short
Gay sexting can be as hot as foreplay or the main event, especially if you've read our tips and tricks. Getting comfortable with your body, sticking to what you know (and what you're willing to do personally), and making sure to get their permission before sending anything can make every sexting adventure super successful.
GIDDI is happy and honored to be a part of your intimate relationship, whether you're exploring on your own or playing with a partner.
The Department for Education is conducting an eight-week public consultation to seek input from parents and young people on what should be covered in the curriculum.
The current SRE Curriculum Guide has not been updated since 2000.
Ministerial officials said it was "unacceptable" and wanted a new curriculum by autumn 2019.
The drive to revise and strengthen the SRE curriculum in schools across England comes after data collected by the BBC Panorama this year showed an increase in sexual abuse by children.
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In England and Wales, reports of people under 18 sexually assaulting other people under 18 rose from 4603 in 2013-14 to 7866 in 2016-17, a 71 percent increase.
The government calls on the public to participate
In March, the UK Department of Education announced that sex and relationship education would be compulsory in schools across England.
However, Education Secretary Justine Greening said the current content guidelines for schools were outdated.
Greening said: "It's unacceptable that the guidelines for romantic relationships and sex education haven't been updated in almost 20 years, especially as our children and young people face risks online - like sexting and cyberbullying. .”
"Young people must have an education that teaches them the importance of healthy and stable relationships."
"This consultation is about allowing teachers, parents, and especially young people to help shape new approaches, and I urge them to get involved."
Sexual abuse among children reveals 'tip of the iceberg'
In England and Wales, reports of people under 18 sexually assaulting other people under 18 rose from 4,603 in 2013-14 to 7,866 in 2016-17, a 71% increase
The number of rapes between people under the age of 18 rose 46 percent from 1,521 to 2,223 in the same period, according to police figures
Reports of sexual assault on school grounds increased from 386 in 2013-14 to 922 in 2016-17
From March 2013 to the present, there were 1,852 reports of sexual abuse of children under the age of 10
No further action is taken in 74% of cases of sexual harassment committed by persons under the age of 18
What do organizations say?
Lisa Hallgarten, policy manager at sexual health charity Brook, said: "We have a lot of information about the particular challenges young people face and what they need from relationships and sex education. Very clear understanding."
"We wholeheartedly look forward to seeing a guide that reflects all of this."
Rachel Krys, co-director of the End Violence Against Women Coalition, said: "We know that children and young people experience sexual harassment and violence too, and online they face Some potentially very disturbing images and content."
"It is critical that schools give children the information they need about sexuality, mutual consent, and healthy relationships."
Ruth Hunt, chief executive of advocacy group Stonewall, said: "The current guidelines, published 17 years ago, make no mention of LGBT people. "
"Schools that include LGBT issues in SRE instruction are rare, yet many LGBT young people do not have the information they need to make safe, informed decisions."
"Only 13% of LGBT young people have learned about healthy same-sex relationships."
Thomas Pascoe, director of advocacy at the Coalition for Marriage, said: "Under these schemes, the main driver of precocious puberty is the government itself."
"We should be teaching young children broad values of respect and tolerance, rather than commanding them to accept adult sexual relationships that they are far from equipped to understand."
Who will lead the consultation?
The 8-week consultation will be led by Ian Bauckham. He was awarded a Commander of the British Empire (CBE) in 2017 for his services to education.
Bawkham is the principal of a Church of England comprehensive school in Kent.
He works with other schools in the local area and beyond and is a national leader in educational leadership.
"I hope the consultation now underway will allow us to find out how best to educate young people in all schools."
